About 10% of women have never had an orgasm -- either with a partner or
during masturbation. And quite a few of them have found their
way into my therapy practice. That's when I tell these women the good news: It
is possible to learn to be orgasmic.
The first and most important lesson is to practice developing a balance of
tension and relaxation during sexual activity. But, my women clients ask, how
can they be both tense and relaxed at the same time? It's a good question, and
here is my two-part answer:
